My pregnancy was smooth sailing, no complications and a text book pregnancy! I went into labour naturally at 38 + 2, my contractions started at around 8:30 Sunday night, I knew right away that this was it I just had a feeling. My contractions started at around 20mins apart and through the night ranged from 40, 20, 10 minutes apart being my first baby I stayed awake the whole night timing every contraction! They started to ramp up about 10am Monday morning and my husband made the phone call to the hospital, we were still happy to stay labouring at home at this point. At about 1pm we made the decision to go into the hospital a 20 minute car ride and I remember none of it!
We checked into the hospital and waited to be assessed to see how far dilated I was. I was nervous that I was only going to be 2cm dilated and be told to go back home. We had to wait a good 40 minutes to be seen as it was actually shift change for the midwives which in the long term worked out in my favour! In came my midwife Diane and she instantly made me feel calm. She did her assessment and I was 8cm dilated.. YES! Although she said we would wait for my Obstetrician to double check so I didn’t want to get too excited, as I remember watching one every minute and girls being told this only to be retold they were 2-4cm dilated. A little while later my Obstetrician quickly came in and “didn’t have time” to check and told me he would be back with in 20mins as he had another patient that was a second time mum so would be over soon. He left and then all of a sudden I remember the most intense pain I’ve ever experienced, my legs went and I just hang onto the bench for dear life and screamed out to my husband to get the midwife!
Diane came straight back in and just rubbed my back and calmed me that this was all normal and I was doing great. In all honesty I don’t know how long this went on for but it felt like forever! Eventually my Obstetrician came back in and without an internal check told me it was time to start pushing.. My labour had been very active and so my Obstetrician told me to hop on the bed and we will get you on all fours with my upper body leaning over the top. So up I went and tried to push in this position, I’m unsure how long I was there for but nothing was happening, I was pushing and nothing. I moved position to standing/squatting while holding onto the bed for support. By this time I was exhausted, I was really doubting myself, I remember yelling to my husband I can’t do this I just can’t. Diane was there the whole time encouraging me and trying to calm me down. At this point I remember looking over and could see my Obstetrician standing in the corner, it honestly looked like he didn’t want to be there and that moment in my head I just crumbled, I thought what is wrong with me why isn’t my little boy coming…
Diane tried to get me to use some gas as I had, had no pain relief at this point, I was just so exhausted I couldn’t understand how her and my husband was telling me to use the gas and I just yelled and pushed it away from me.. This position wasn’t working either so back on the bed they got me lying on my side.. Again I pushed and pushed and nothing… Eventually my Obstetrician came over and said “Alex you are going to have to have an epidural, I think his head is on an angle so we are going to have to give you an episiotomy and ventouse him out”.. By this time it was coming on nearly 24 hours I had been in labour and not slept I was exhausted, I just looked at my husband I didn’t know what to do but didn’t feel like I had a choice as that was the only option given to me. My Obstetrician went and called the anesthesiologist and he was there within 15 minutes (got to love the private system!) The epidural was administered on the first attempt and I was hooked up to keep an eye on my baby’s heart rate. It was fine he wasn’t distressed in the slightest!
Once the epidural hit it was go time.. My legs were put up in stirrups and my Obstetrician instructed me on when to push, 4 pushes and my baby born was at 8:43pm, 24 hours after contractions starting and after hours of pushing. My Obstetrician continued on down there while my placenta came out and then stitched me up, I think in total it was 14 stitches. My baby was perfectly healthy apart from the cone head & bruise.
The next day my Obstetrician came in and explained that my baby’s head was at an angle so with every push he was pushing sidewards into me so he had to be turned and then pulled out. My episiotomy was a decent one that went off to the side. I could barely walk sitting was so painful which meant every feed I was in absolute agony..
Day 2 I got up to have a shower and go to the loo.. I didn’t make it to the loo, I literally peed my pants. I had absolutely no control over any of it. I let my midwife know and she booked me in to see the womens health physio on the ward. The physio came later that arvo and said look you have just had a baby with a lot of trauma this could be completely normal.. She gave me pamphlets, told me about pelvic floor exercises and told me to let her know if it happens again as it could be a bladder infection. It happened again, I got tested turns out I had a bladder infection and I thought all good I’ll get this cleared up and I will have control again!
2 weeks PP and something still didn’t feel right, I had control back of my urine but still was shuffling to walk, couldn’t sit down without extreme pain and literally couldn’t be on my feet for longer than 5 minutes. I called my OB’s office, I was told it was normal I just had a baby. Ok I thought and let it go, after all this was all new to me.. a few more weeks past and I wasn’t improving, someone I had just recently met had a baby a few weeks before me and actually just got told she had a prolapse and she had similar symptoms to me.. I thought in my head no way I’m too young to have one of those and let it go.. It kept lingering on my mind so one morning I grabbed a mirror and had a look, I broke down right then.. I fell onto the floor, I didn’t know what I was looking at but knew it wasn’t right.. I was in hysterics, my husband came home for lunch and there I was 5 week mum balling my eyes out while trying to breastfeed my baby. I called my OB’s office again and made an appointment to see him the following day. He told me I had some prolapse but was completely normal for a vaginal birth and I would heal and be back to my fitness ways in no time, I felt relieved but in my head also though why the hell wasn’t I warned of the risks of a vaginal birth.
I booked into a Women’s Health Physio who confirmed the bladder prolapse and sent me off for a scan to see the degree. The scan revealed a bladder prolapse, a drop in my rectum on standing and also a partial tear in my right puborectalis muscle.